assassinregrets:

punksirius:

modern au where instead of dark marks voldemort just mass texts the skull emoji to summon the death eaters.

#karkaroff: new phone who dis

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thecurmudgeonnextdoor:

Maybe I should clarify:

I hate the culture of children.

It’s not really children, per se.  Granted, I’m not fond of them being around, I don’t want one in my house or very often in my immediate presence, and I especially don’t like it if I have to watch one that can’t even talk coherently let alone understand what I’m saying, but all this is because I have no patience and no strong maternal instincts to speak of.

If I’m out in public somewhere and a child looks at me, I will smile at it.  If I see a video or gif of a child doing something adorable, I might coo and share it.  I don’t actively go out of my way to upset children or even discuss them with most people.

But I hate with all my being the culture that surrounds the concept of children.

There’s an overwhelming societal expectation of a beuterused person that they must not only have children (usually multiple), but that they must desperately want children, often to the exclusion of all else.  It’s tied very much into the notion that everyone is supposed to get married and promptly produce offspring and put themselves neatly into heteronormative traditional gender roles so as to be a good adult and a “productive member of society.”  Indeed, the mere presence of breasts and a presumed uterus is indicative that a person’s worth is whether or not they reproduce.

And it’s this idea that infests every conversation about health or future or family.  It’s this concept that makes those of us who do not want children (especially biologically) have to constantly brace ourselves for potential arguments when we talk about any of these things.

It’s the reason I had to switch doctors when my first one kept insisting that “the ideal” was for me to “remain a virgin until marriage and then marry a virgin before having children.”  It’s the reason people with vaginas require checkups for “reproductive health” to make sure everything is “functioning correctly for reproduction” instead of just to make sure things don’t hurt/aren’t infected/need attention.  It’s the reason we see language used like “baby-making” for het sex with no stated reproductive intent, why the term “biological clock” is still exclusively used in regards to reproduction, and why there is an over-emphasis on pregnancy and reproduction language in sex (“baby goo,” “baby batter,” “gonna make a baby in you,” etc.).  It’s why there’s still so much debate over who gets a say in pregnancy, why pregnancy is still terrifyingly often referred to as a punishment or as a means to control the beuterused.  It’s the reason why family, friends, and even strangers feel completely within their rights to ask you about your reproductive plans, to make you justify all of your life choices to them at a moment’s notice, to question your thoughts and beliefs as if they know you better than you do yourself.

It’s the reason why the questions are so intensive when someone asks for lasting birth control.  It’s the reasons why we are told over and over the rate of regret, the success stories of people who changed their minds, the horror stories of those who didn’t.  It’s the reason why, when you state that you have a “phobia of pregnancy” in the hope that it will make people stop asking you without making you explain yourself or justify your feelings for the umpteenth time, the only advice you get is, “Well, that needs to be fixed before anything else.”

It’s the reason why “because I don’t want children” isn’t enough.  It’s the reason why adoption is never seen as an option because “you’ll want some of your own someday.”  It’s the reason why people put such value on “extending the family line” and “continuing the family name.”

It’s the reason I have to say I hate children for people to stop questioning me.  It’s the reason I have to monitor my conversations with certain people because they’ll say, “Ah, see, you DO like kids!!”  It’s the reason parts of my dysphoria kick in hard when I see the sort of things mentioned above.  Because, unless something happens to remove or damage a uterus, it is not only expected, but demanded of you to know why you’re refusing “the most precious gift on Earth,” “your womanly duty,” “the greatest love you’ll ever know,” and so forth.

It’s the reason why “I hate children” is rolled off my tongue more and more until finally people just stop talking.

But I don’t hate children.

I hate the culture of children.

I hate the misogyny that surrounds pregnancy.

Most of all, I hate the people who perpetuate this culture, who deny someone else the right to say they don’t want to be part of it, who threaten to make them part of it.

But, you know, it’s so much easier to just say I hate children.

“It’s the reason why “I hate children” is rolled off my tongue more and more until finally people just stop talking.“

I can’t even count how many times I used this line at my last job. I said it until my mouth went numb and the arguments finally stopped. For a while they understood it as a shock value answer, but eventually they believed me. It got to the point that they stopped joking about loaning me someone to knock me up and started joking that they had to hide their kids’ pictures whenever I walked past their desks.

It was also significantly easier to say “I hate children” than to tell people “I’m ace”. I made that mistake exactly twice at that job, and I said Fuck this I’m not getting into this one more time.

coldsaturn:

korakos:

I was complaining to aionwatha about how I stupidly love all my secondary characters more than my main ones. It’s frustrating having to wait 2~3 chapters before I can introduce the character I wanted to write about all along.** Told her I needed to get out of that habit and start making MCs I actually like.

She said “But then you’d want to hurt them, torture them emotionally and physically, then possibly murder them.”

I responded, “I do all that anyway. I just can’t enjoy it when I don’t like them very much.”

** ((Neil is the exception to this unwritten rule; after falling out of favor from drafts #3-#???, he came back into first place in the last two rounds of rewrites and outranks even Andrew.))

*taps the mic to check it’s on*
*adjusts tie*
“So, is it correct to assume that the characters you like more than others are the ones facing harder tortures?” 

True for the characters and therefore for the stories as well. You can tell how old a project is by how awful I am to its characters—the more years I’ve held onto them, the more dear they are to me. The more dear they are to me, the more I want to break them. The harsher the story is, the more satisfying it is to write, and the more I like it. See also: the relics.

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Saw this post make the rounds on aionwatha‘s tumblr, thought about reblogging it again, but then out of curiosity went to the folder where I keep the majority of The Foxhole Court stuff. I say “the majority” because the oldest file I have on this computer is from 2005. Everything from the first 7 years was on paper, in notebooks, in comics, and in long rambling letters to myself.

Even with the first seven years lost, I still have 894 files and 39 folders.

894 files.

Cut scenes, calendars, birthdays, rosters, side stories, alternate chapters, query letters, outlines, images, draft after draft after draft.

Ridiculous.

((Marked is second place right now with 254))

I was complaining to aionwatha about how I stupidly love all my secondary characters more than my main ones. It’s frustrating having to wait 2~3 chapters before I can introduce the character I wanted to write about all along.** Told her I needed to get out of that habit and start making MCs I actually like.

She said “But then you’d want to hurt them, torture them emotionally and physically, then possibly murder them.”

I responded, “I do all that anyway. I just can’t enjoy it when I don’t like them very much.”

** ((Neil is the exception to this unwritten rule; after falling out of favor from drafts #3-#???, he came back into first place in the last two rounds of rewrites and outranks even Andrew.))

Adding a cut because there’s a bit of gore/violence in this post and some people might not wanna see it on their dash? I don’t think it’s that bad, but this is me we’re talking about, and I am attempting to learn social niceties. :O

If you are on mobile and this cut doesn’t work for you, uh, sorry.

josephkavinky:

ronan: “it was never gonna be you and me”

kavinsky:

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mysoulforcoffee said: Bc it is THE BEST SHOW EVER

TRUE STORY:

I loaned a coworker the pilot DVD so he’d get hooked so I’d have someone else to talk to about it. Then he never returned it, then he moved to Tennessee. No idea what happened to the DVD itself, he swears he couldn’t find it

So instead of ordering the pilot DVD off ebay I bought an entire new set of season 1 because I needed the pilot to be in the appropriate slip disc so I could add it to my boxed set as if nothing had ever happened and the DVD hadn’t gone missing

No idea what I’ll do with discs 2+, foist them off on a sister I guess