Q

Anonymous asked:

How is Matt on good terms with his father after what he did to him with the alcohol and drugs?

A

Matt made a very important decision on his first process to recovery: he could hold his father’s flaws against him, resent him for everything that he enabled, and cut his father out of his life–or he could choose to accept what had been done both to him and by him and attempt to move past it.

For better or worse, Matt chose the second route. He chose not to hate his father. He understands his father is intensely flawed, and he understands his father’s failures and he still feels that betrayal from time to time if he lets his thoughts spiral a little too far into the dusty corners of his mind, but he decided that–for him, at least–it was important to still keep his father in his life.

Their trust is a little ragged around the edges, and Matt will avoid all major social events at his father’s house from here on out, but Matt wants to keep his father in his life even if it’s just at arm’s length. If his father fucks up again, Matt will have to rethink this strategy, but for now this works for him.

It has nothing to do with his father’s feelings, and everything to do with Matt’s—sometimes, acceptance is the best you can manage for yourself if you want to heal ((or at least heal over)). It’s not forgiveness, technically, but it’s almost enough to live with.

Nov. 26 2015
#the foxhole court #foxhole court questions and spoilers
144 notes

Notes

  1. darlingvenus03 reblogged this from korakos
  2. peixinhoyang reblogged this from korakos
  3. liyahyeet reblogged this from korakos
  4. purpleshadow-star reblogged this from korakos
  5. korakos posted this